For this blog I want to talk about a topic many women are
curious about but very few talk about, female ejaculation. In our urban culture
we don’t refer to female ejaculation by this name.
If you have heard of it,
usually its in the context of “squirting.”
I don’t really like this urban term because I don’t think it encompasses
the variety of presentations female ejaculation can have.
Perhaps I also dislike this term because of the context in
which it is used. It is often not used in a way that is a sacred experience for
women and is almost made to sound dirty or something to laugh about. My goal
with this blog is to introduce women back to the beauty of orgasms and female
ejaculation as sacred and a wonderful experience.
I will start with a quick history lesson.
In Ancient spiritual sexual traditions the fluid from female
ejaculation was considered a sacred medicine (1). In Ayurveda and tantra
traditions the fluid was called “Amrita” which means the nectar of life (1). In
Traditional Chinese healing, the fluid was known as the white moon flower
medicine (1). What a beautiful way to describe it. Trying saying the word
“Amrita” out loud.
It has a soft, sensual and romantic tone to it, way better
than squirting or even the medicalized term, female ejaculation. Those do not
sound romantic at all.
I do want to talk about the anatomy briefly just so women
have a bit more background to what this fluid is. In some cases when a female
is about to orgasm and release “Amrita” it can feel like she needs to pee and
might mistake the fluid for urine and feel all embarrassed. Or stop the
experience from going further because she thinks she will pee.
There are 2 sets of glands in the female genitalia.
The first is called vestibular glands or “Bartholins”
glands. These glands are located at the bottom of the vaginal opening at
approximately 5 and 7 o’clock. These glands secrete a very small amount of
fluid during arousal (1). It is believed that this fluid is to help maintain
the vaginal ecology and pH (1).
The second set of glands are called paraurethral glands or
“Skene’s” glands. These glands are made up of a network of tiny tubules and are
enmeshed in the erectile tissues that surrounds the urethra. This network of
tubules has about 30 ducts or openings along the urethra and 2 main ducts that
open inside or outside the urethral opening (1). It is from these glands that a
clear watery fluid is produced.
This fluid can have a faint musky odour. The fluid can
trickle, can have a small gush or as put in the book, be a “great geyser of
liquid” (1).
It is believed that this fluid plays an immune function to
prevent infection and maintain the vaginal environment but more medical
research is needed.
Okay so…does every woman orgasm with “Amrita”?
Not all women orgasm with ejaculation. In fact it is a small
minority of women that do and they don’t experience it every time they orgasm.
There seems to be a small amount of women that are natural ejaculators (1). Now
that doesn’t mean just because you don’t orgasm with “Amrita” that you never
can.
Women have the equipment and therefore there is always
potential.
So then you might be wondering…well how do I do that? Well I
am no expert on this subject so what I do recommend is getting a copy of
“Women’s Anatomy of Arousal” by Sheri Winston or researching into tantra for
answers.
Happy Exploring,
The Pelvic Health Lady
Reference:
1. Winston, Sheri. 2010. Women’s Anatomy of
Arousal. Secret maps to buried pleasure. New York: Mango Garden Press.