For this blog I want to talk about a topic many women are curious about but very few talk about, female ejaculation. In our urban culture we don’t refer to female ejaculation by this name.
If you have heard of it, usually its in the context of “squirting.” I don’t really like this urban term because I don’t think it encompasses the variety of presentations female ejaculation can have.
Perhaps I also dislike this term because of the context in which it is used. It is often not used in a way that is a sacred experience for women and is almost made to sound dirty or something to laugh about. My goal with this blog is to introduce women back to the beauty of orgasms and female ejaculation as sacred and a wonderful experience.
I will start with a quick history lesson.
In Ancient spiritual sexual traditions the fluid from female ejaculation was considered a sacred medicine (1). In Ayurveda and tantra traditions the fluid was called “Amrita” which means the nectar of life (1). In Traditional Chinese healing, the fluid was known as the white moon flower medicine (1). What a beautiful way to describe it. Trying saying the word “Amrita” out loud.
It has a soft, sensual and romantic tone to it, way better than squirting or even the medicalized term, female ejaculation. Those do not sound romantic at all.
I do want to talk about the anatomy briefly just so women have a bit more background to what this fluid is. In some cases when a female is about to orgasm and release “Amrita” it can feel like she needs to pee and might mistake the fluid for urine and feel all embarrassed. Or stop the experience from going further because she thinks she will pee.
There are 2 sets of glands in the female genitalia.
The first is called vestibular glands or “Bartholins” glands. These glands are located at the bottom of the vaginal opening at approximately 5 and 7 o’clock. These glands secrete a very small amount of fluid during arousal (1). It is believed that this fluid is to help maintain the vaginal ecology and pH (1).
The second set of glands are called paraurethral glands or “Skene’s” glands. These glands are made up of a network of tiny tubules and are enmeshed in the erectile tissues that surrounds the urethra. This network of tubules has about 30 ducts or openings along the urethra and 2 main ducts that open inside or outside the urethral opening (1). It is from these glands that a clear watery fluid is produced.
This fluid can have a faint musky odour. The fluid can trickle, can have a small gush or as put in the book, be a “great geyser of liquid” (1).
It is believed that this fluid plays an immune function to prevent infection and maintain the vaginal environment but more medical research is needed.
Okay so…does every woman orgasm with “Amrita”?
Not all women orgasm with ejaculation. In fact it is a small minority of women that do and they don’t experience it every time they orgasm. There seems to be a small amount of women that are natural ejaculators (1). Now that doesn’t mean just because you don’t orgasm with “Amrita” that you never can.
Women have the equipment and therefore there is always potential.
So then you might be wondering…well how do I do that? Well I am no expert on this subject so what I do recommend is getting a copy of “Women’s Anatomy of Arousal” by Sheri Winston or researching into tantra for answers.
The Pelvic Health Lady
1. Winston, Sheri. 2010. Women’s Anatomy of Arousal. Secret maps to buried pleasure. New York: Mango Garden Press.