When Emotions get constipated.
We underestimate the power emotions have on our body. If we don’t value emotions, its easy to ignore, avoid, dismiss, bury emotions, especially unpleasant ones.
I was listening to a great presentation by JP Sears, a comedian, emotional coach and author of How To Be Ultra Spiritual: 12 ½ steps to spiritual superiority.
He says, emotions, or E and Motion is energy in motion. Carl Jung says that emotions are the language of our soul. All emotions are sacred. Emotions are the guiding force that helps us nourish our soul and grow into our true selves and part of growth can be discomfort.
So what happens when our emotions get constipated?
If you imagine an emotion as a source of energy, when we don’t stop to acknowledge it, listen to it and let it run its course that energy gets stuck in the digestive system (going with this metaphor). We may not notice it right away but as time passes we begin to realize, something is not right. It could be lack of energy, bloating, constipation, abdominal pain, cramping, etc. We will think something is wrong with our body.
Or we may feel the emotion and decide to suffocate it by breathing shallow, we become physically tense, psychologically rigid just so we don’t have to “feel” the emotion. After awhile this energy starts to become toxic.
An emotion or sensation can be unpleasant such as anger, sadness, grief, fear but its not necessarily bad. These emotions if allowed to run their course with mindful compassion actually nourish us. Just like food moves through the digestive system to provide us nourishment, these energies are meant to nourish us as well. They help us discover hidden truths about ourselves. They help us draw lines between who we are now and who we were then.
It seems logical that if something hurts from a survival perspective then it must be bad for me. If we rule out true danger of death, the emotions that hurt can actually become our friends not enemies. Self-acceptance/self-realization is when you can move toward the feeling that feels bad and transmute it. 90% of these emotions will enlighten us.
To accept ourselves truly, we need to “feel” ourselves and connect to our bodies, in order to begin to understand the messages that our emotions are trying to communicate. We need to approach the sensations with curiousity and allow them to be present so that they may be digested.
When we can sit with our sadness or shame or guilt or whatever emotion, at first it may feel like sitting in a swamp that is stagnant and not moving, but by focusing on it with loving compassion the energy begin to move and a stream begins to flow. This allows the water to become clear. Once its clear, we can see the bottom and understand the true message of our soul.
These are 5 questions JP Sears posed in his presentation to help deepen self-acceptance and create more flow.
- Who are you not?
- Who’s expectations are you still polarized around? Put another way, who’s expectations do you find yourself either abiding to or acting in defiance. For example, my parents want this or that of me...so I am doing it. Or my parents want me to act like this so I’m doing everything possible to do the opposite.
- How do you meet your emotional needs?
- What is your biofeedback that tells you when you are out of alignment with your true self? Meaning how do you know when you are out of balance? Are you aware of the sensations in your body? Or the emotions? What do you use to gauge whether you are on the right track in life?
- What wants to live through you? Or put another way, what purpose is trying to be fulfilled by you? Why are you here?
Credit where credit is due. JP Sears presentation for the Self Acceptance Summit hosted by Soundstrue.
The Pelvic Health Lady